So, here we are, once again. I couldn't sleep and began thinking about what the future holds in the following months and year. It's quite possible I will be engaged for real (not just on Facebook...long story) in the next 6 months to a year, and married at the end of next year or perhaps sometime the following year (which will be here sooner than you think!) and I'm not even really sure what to do with my life. 

I know I have no rhyme or reason to plan it all this second, but it's who I am. I'm a planner, and what I do now reflects on my future. Not having a set A to B to C, etc. plan drives me crazy. So it's stressful thinking about marriage so soon after undergrad and also considering the possibility of law school while married to a soldier. Throw into the mix of Steve's reconsideration about reenlisting, and it's the perfect recipe for insomnia. 

With Steve stationed at Bliss, I scoped out law schools close by, for if we were to marry I would still like to pursue that degree. Turns out the closest law school is in Lubbock, an 8 hour drive away, and I assure you the program is most likely not Tier I. There are graduate programs around, but they wouldn't be law. 

I know I'm worrying for nothing, and I should focus on what's in front of me: a new job I start in less than 72 hours, along with a new school year, not to mention the fact that I can actually talk and text to my boyfriend instead of waiting for Skype to kick in while he's on another continent. 

I have a lot to be thankful for and much to do before graduation day (it's about 11 months and 2 days away!), but goodness, I should have a plan in place by now, right? Sigh. We shall see what happens soon!
 


Comments

Martin @ Insomnia Land

Fri, 08 Jan 2010 12:59:38

Is there any reason why you have to get married so soon? Wouldn't it be a better idea to get settled in your new job, decide where you want to live and figure out what you want to do after graduation first?

It sounds like you have a lot to think about at the moment - good luck!

 

Megan

Mon, 11 Jan 2010 06:39:09

Martin,

Thank you for your comments and criticism. I know because of my age I will have comments like this off and on, but I'm prepared to address them.

Yes, I do have a lot to think about at the moment. But what is your reasoning that I'm getting married "too soon?" I have known people younger than me who have dated for less time and ended up marrying. I certainly believe that after enduring a long-distance relationship with Steve for as long as I have - across time zones and many hundreds of miles - we will have a happy, successful relationship. We are not jumping into it, but have talked about it for a long time and have decided the right time for us to get married is in a year or two. That being said, I believe age is irrelevant.

On my job, living together, etc. - I might not have clarified before, but my job is 1) part time at the moment and 2) certainly not something I see myself doing ten years from now (being a legal assistant). So it's not so much that I need to "settle" in the job; I am using the opportunity to do this job to see if I really want to pursue a law degree later on, or if it is not for me but that I can use my skills in a field I enjoy.

I have a vague outline of post-grad plans; I know I want to take time off and work for a while before deciding on law school. I may do a part-time masters program while I work.

A lot of my plans hinge on whether or not Steve reenlists, because we want to be together. In military relationships, one cannot necessarily have a "five year plan," because often plans change last minute. Indeed, even in normal relationships a "five year plan" or long term plan doesn't always work out, such as if one person gets laid off, is offered a new job opportunity out of state, etc.

I hope this further clarifies my ramblings from before. Thank you!

 

usmcwife8999

Mon, 11 Jan 2010 11:40:57

One foot in front of the other.....and walk straight. Wait for the forks in the road to reach you, do not run to them. You will be fine.

 



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