Keepin' it New 11/08/2009
 
This last week was definitely a week I was deep in thought. Some events turned my thoughts in one way, and talks with friends turned them in another direction just as suddenly. 

At the end of last week, a friend of mine and I were discussing relationships. Usually I'm cautious on this topic, as I'm no expert and my situation is different than that of my civilian friends, and it was surprising to discover that even if you're in the same town, the same school, or even living in the same building as someone else, it can feel as though you are miles apart.

Men (and women) sometimes become complacent in relationships. They can believe that once they've "won" the guy or girl they are pursuing, they don't have to be romantic anymore. Relationships can then become stagnant, and break ups or disappointments can occur. I've seen this happen and have experienced it myself, but I've learned some important lessons from this military relationship... 

1) Treat each day like it's your first date together.
This doesn't always hold if your first date was awkward, but seek out new information about your significant other like you would on a first date. Ask him or her how they are and listen, really listen, to the response. Be romantic and loving, and never take your time together for granted. Learn something new about your love and build on what you already know through affectionate gestures or compliments. 

2) Find a way to show you care each day.
Even a simple, one minute phone call or one line email can brighten your significant other's day and keep the relationship heart beating. Find a way to let them know you're thinking of them. Even if you have a busy day, that little bit of time you spend on that person can mean the world.

Keeping a relationship feeling like new, just like taking care of anything you treasure, takes time and effort. But, in the end, the effort is well worth it!
 


Comments

Samantha

Tue, 10 Nov 2009 7:45:31 am

Totally agree!

 



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